Setting Routines and Expectations
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It is important that children and adults understand expectations of behaviour, communication and how the family works. One of the ways to do this is to have clear expectations, routines and boundaries. Some families write their rules, expectations and routines out, others talk them through so everyone is aware and some are not clear for the child or parent/caregiver.
Expectations give guidelines on what is expected of the child in terms of their behaviour in different situations e.g. school, at home, when visiting others, going to the library, park or pool.
Research shows that having good routines can help build the child’s strong emotional development, regulation and self-management skills. Children need clear direction and consistent follow through by adults.
Routines may be useful before and after school, at meal times, getting ready for activities or bedtimes. It helps the child feel safe, structured and helps them with a pattern of behaviours for what happens next.
Resources to help:
Setting Limits and Boundaries
An article on setting firm but fair limits and boundaries for tamariki.
Parenting Through Separation and Beyond – Children with Additional Needs
Setting new routines for your children after separation.
